Many would say no. At least very few have ever experienced a stress-free Christmas. Even the first Christmas was not stress free. Mary and Joseph were under social pressure because they were pregnant before they were married – something that was more shunned in the...
After we were married, we discovered that we were very different people. I loved her and she loved me. But she didn’t love all the things I did or the decisions I made. I loathed being held back and blocked from things I “knew” to...
Relationships can often be tough to navigate because we are not all wired the same. Knowing what is important to a person is critical, but don’t assume it is the same for others as it is for you. SDI (Strength Deployment Inventory), gives us a...
Confidence is a wonderful trait when it is used appropriately and at the right time. But there are situations when confidence is displayed that can get us into trouble and damage our relationships. So how do we know what is the right time and the...
Making right choices is something that is difficult to do. I recently read an article from Tim Scudder who is the leading expert in the SDI. He was speaking about how we make choices and gave some good advice. For those of us that are...
I was reflecting on a Ted Talk that I viewed a while ago about how the very things that drive us crazy in our kids may actually be their genius. I haven’t been able to find the reference to post the talk, but the essence...
This question never fails to come up in Relational Intelligence training. At what age do children demonstrate MVS? At what age do children begin to show a proclivity to a particular personality type? And if they do, how can that help me as a parent...
Every organization has a culture. It might not be written down anywhere, but everyone experiences it. People know the culture so well that it shapes the patterns of behavior, the decision-making process, and how people get things done. Culture is difficult to define but it...
I had a person tell me this past week that they had the gift of de-escalating conflict. I asked them what they meant by that and they said that they were able to calm situations down no matter what was happening around him. Wow! That...
I love the SDI because it is simple and easy to apply to every relationship. It can be a game changer in building healthy productive relationships whether it be your family, work, or ministry. As great as the assessment is, it is about to get...
