If you are a believer and follower of Christ, you want to live in complete obedience to God. But that is not always easy to discern. Life can present complex problems with multiple decision options. Which one are you to choose? Each option seems to...
Boundaries are necessary to maintain a healthy and productive life. Yet many of us struggle to know where to set up boundaries and how to maintain them. The result is that we often find ourselves doing things we know deep down inside are unhealthy. We...
It is that time of the year when we all consider making our New Year’s resolutions. Some have given up on making any resolutions because they usually don’t last very long and end up in disappointment. But we all have changes that we would like...
Many would say no. At least very few have ever experienced a stress-free Christmas. Even the first Christmas was not stress free. Mary and Joseph were under social pressure because they were pregnant before they were married – something that was more shunned in the...
After we were married, we discovered that we were very different people. I loved her and she loved me. But she didn’t love all the things I did or the decisions I made. I loathed being held back and blocked from things I “knew” to...
Relationships can often be tough to navigate because we are not all wired the same. Knowing what is important to a person is critical, but don’t assume it is the same for others as it is for you. SDI (Strength Deployment Inventory), gives us a...
Confidence is a wonderful trait when it is used appropriately and at the right time. But there are situations when confidence is displayed that can get us into trouble and damage our relationships. So how do we know what is the right time and the...
Making right choices is something that is difficult to do. I recently read an article from Tim Scudder who is the leading expert in the SDI. He was speaking about how we make choices and gave some good advice. For those of us that are...
I was reflecting on a Ted Talk that I viewed a while ago about how the very things that drive us crazy in our kids may actually be their genius. I haven’t been able to find the reference to post the talk, but the essence...
This question never fails to come up in Relational Intelligence training. At what age do children demonstrate MVS? At what age do children begin to show a proclivity to a particular personality type? And if they do, how can that help me as a parent...
