Confidence is a wonderful trait when it is used appropriately and at the right time. But there are situations when confidence is displayed that can get us into trouble and damage our relationships. So how do we know what is the right time and the...
Making right choices is something that is difficult to do. I recently read an article from Tim Scudder who is the leading expert in the SDI. He was speaking about how we make choices and gave some good advice. For those of us that are...
I was reflecting on a Ted Talk that I viewed a while ago about how the very things that drive us crazy in our kids may actually be their genius. I haven’t been able to find the reference to post the talk, but the essence...
This question never fails to come up in Relational Intelligence training. At what age do children demonstrate MVS? At what age do children begin to show a proclivity to a particular personality type? And if they do, how can that help me as a parent...
Every organization has a culture. It might not be written down anywhere, but everyone experiences it. People know the culture so well that it shapes the patterns of behavior, the decision-making process, and how people get things done. Culture is difficult to define but it...
I had a person tell me this past week that they had the gift of de-escalating conflict. I asked them what they meant by that and they said that they were able to calm situations down no matter what was happening around him. Wow! That...
I love the SDI because it is simple and easy to apply to every relationship. It can be a game changer in building healthy productive relationships whether it be your family, work, or ministry. As great as the assessment is, it is about to get...
The insights one gains about people through SDI is powerful and can be life changing. Immediately after a training event I will get the question about whether it is possible to apply SDI to parenting. There is no research on this topic nor have there...
Recognizing people for their contributions is critical to valuing people in your ministry. Everyone of us appreciates being recognized for a job well done. So why are we so stingy about delivering thank you’s and appreciation to volunteers and teams? Maybe we need to think...
Most people think that anger is found in the RED MVS (performance). I can understand why they may think that way. When a RED expresses anger it can be a “memorable experience.” What I mean is that RED anger can feel harsh and intense. Language...
