God’s Word teaches us to love one another. But that is extremely difficult when they rub us the wrong way! If you’re like me, you find it tempting to judge people who push your buttons. We can justify our attitude towards these people by seeing...
You might ask, “Why is a relationship intelligence company talking about my choice of vacation for my family?” Well, there is a direct connection between the kind of vacations we prefer and our Motivational Value System! If you understand what makes you and other members...
Leaders are often the target of criticism. They do their best to lead well and make decisions that will be best for everyone, yet they find themselves attacked for poor leadership. Why is this universally true? Because what is right for the leader is often...
One of the greatest needs we have as human being is to be heard and understood. Dr. Leon F. Seltzer* says that being heard and understood is foundational to feeling loved. Depression, loneliness, and isolation are all a result of people feeling that they are...
Have you ever had someone go silent on you when you are in conflict? You are confused and don’t know what to do? How can you respond so you don’t make it worse? You can make it worse if you do the wrong things. In...
Almost everyone I know hates conflict. Just the mention of the word creates anxiety for some. It doesn’t take much to recall the red-hot emotions that were pumping through your body the last time conflict showed its ugly face. Because most people have instant recall...
Being a great listener is the best way to show someone how much you care about them. By listening well, you demonstrate how much you value what they are saying. The problem is that there are few great listeners. We are better talkers than listeners. ...
Conflict is painful. It is destructive to families, businesses, and to ministries. It leaves people feeling like a failure believing they could have done something more to maintain the peace and live in harmony. For others they carry with them anger and a backpack full...
Having been married for 40 years to someone who is extremely cautious, I can share with you some things that I have learned. I’m still learning… because I am wired just the opposite of my wife when it comes to being cautious. My number two...
It is easy to identify the “warning signs” to post on other’s foreheads. I can picture that person with a sign saying, “Beware – I talk to much!”. I wish they would just stop and listen and be more sensitive to other people. Sometimes I...
