One of the greatest needs we have as human being is to be heard and understood. Dr. Leon F. Seltzer* says that being heard and understood is foundational to feeling loved. Depression, loneliness, and isolation are all a result of people feeling that they are...
Have you ever had someone go silent on you when you are in conflict? You are confused and don’t know what to do? How can you respond so you don’t make it worse? You can make it worse if you do the wrong things. In...
Almost everyone I know hates conflict. Just the mention of the word creates anxiety for some. It doesn’t take much to recall the red-hot emotions that were pumping through your body the last time conflict showed its ugly face. Because most people have instant recall...
Being a great listener is the best way to show someone how much you care about them. By listening well, you demonstrate how much you value what they are saying. The problem is that there are few great listeners. We are better talkers than listeners. ...
Conflict is painful. It is destructive to families, businesses, and to ministries. It leaves people feeling like a failure believing they could have done something more to maintain the peace and live in harmony. For others they carry with them anger and a backpack full...
Having been married for 40 years to someone who is extremely cautious, I can share with you some things that I have learned. I’m still learning… because I am wired just the opposite of my wife when it comes to being cautious. My number two...
It is easy to identify the “warning signs” to post on other’s foreheads. I can picture that person with a sign saying, “Beware – I talk to much!”. I wish they would just stop and listen and be more sensitive to other people. Sometimes I...
In a recent article written by Debra J. VanderVoort, of the University of Hawaii, she states that research has demonstrated that an increase of intrapersonal intelligence impacts every aspect of your life and well as that of our society. She defines intrapersonal intelligence as “Awareness...
Don’t assume we all make decisions in the same way, because we don’t. If you make this mistake, you will often find yourself frustrated that other people cannot come to agreement with you. You could make the perfect argument for your position and why a...
If you are like me, you sometimes get discouraged and are tempted to give up. Often the difference between failure and success is someone who comes along side of you and speaks a powerful word of encouragement. Those words delivered in the right way have...
