God’s Word teaches us to love one another. But that is extremely difficult when they rub us the wrong way! If you’re like me, you find it tempting to judge people who push your buttons. We can justify our attitude towards these people by seeing...
Leaders are often the target of criticism. They do their best to lead well and make decisions that will be best for everyone, yet they find themselves attacked for poor leadership. Why is this universally true? Because what is right for the leader is often...
Consentia Group is seeing marriages transformed through our Soulmates For Life Couples retreats in amazing ways. Recently I led a retreat for experienced retreat leaders and the response was overwhelming. One presenter said, “I have attended and led marriage retreats for more than 15 years...
What is the most common conflict trigger for people? I don’t have scientific research to prove what I am about to say, but after training groups for ten years, I can tell you what pops up most frequently. The issue that triggers conflict for most...
Listening has such a powerful effect on people that listening is often confused with love. Paul Tillich, the famous theologian states that, “The first duty of love is to listen”. You cannot express love unless you are a great listener. If you want to love...
One of the greatest needs we have as human being is to be heard and understood. Dr. Leon F. Seltzer* says that being heard and understood is foundational to feeling loved. Depression, loneliness, and isolation are all a result of people feeling that they are...
If you are reading this blog post, you probably have someone in your life that exhibits controlling behavior. Controlling people are not difficult to find. You can find controlling people as parents, bosses, co-workers, at church, romantic relationships, or just interacting with strangers. Controlling people can...
We all have preferences for the way things should be done. But there are people in our lives that insist things be done a certain way and are quite adamant about it. They tend to be the kind of people that like schedules, detailed plans,...
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who says everything is okay but you kind of feel like they are mad at you? You have tried to figure out what is wrong but the more you press, the more confused you get? More...
Have you ever had someone go silent on you when you are in conflict? You are confused and don’t know what to do? How can you respond so you don’t make it worse? You can make it worse if you do the wrong things. In...
