Who doesn’t love it when someone is being supportive? Supportive is a great strength, that when deployed, can make a difference in an organization or an individual. But being supportive has a dark side. When used in the wrong way or when you are too...
Fear. We all have it – to some degree. It is part of being human. We have needs that when threatened, cause us to have an emotional response that is hard to control. The power of fear can linger in the background in the form...
Just about everyone is currently sheltering in place under the recommendation or order of their elected officials. We share a common reality of being confined to a limited space and the danger of an invisible virus that has the potential to destroy. But that is...
Many would say no. At least very few have ever experienced a stress-free Christmas. Even the first Christmas was not stress free. Mary and Joseph were under social pressure because they were pregnant before they were married – something that was more shunned in the...
Most people think that anger is found in the RED MVS (performance). I can understand why they may think that way. When a RED expresses anger it can be a “memorable experience.” What I mean is that RED anger can feel harsh and intense. Language...
The actions of leaders have profound and lasting impact on people and organizations. I’m sure you have been part of a ministry that was led by a leader whose actions caused chaos and it was the people who suffered the most. That is why it...
I get asked this question at every SDI training that I have ever conducted, “Are we born with our personality or is it developed through our environment?” It happened again this past week so I have decided to spend some time reflecting on what we...
None of us like being controlled by someone else. Personally, I have an antenna that is very sensitive to those around me that want to make sure things are done a certain way. My natural instinct is to fight back (Red is the first step...
We all have buckets that we need to have filled. When they are full, we feel satisfied and life appears to be good. Living with emotional intelligence is knowing what your own buckets are and understanding what other people have as buckets. I am not talking...
