Our vision for marriage is that each couple would become Soulmates for Life, enjoying God’s blessing in their relationship. The Consentia Group’s process of discovery, relate, and grow is ideally suited for helping couples discover themselves and their spouse in ways they never knew. We learn new ways of relating, and grow in our marriage together. We offer retreats and resources to assist you in your marriage journey.
At Soul Mates for Life you will discover the motivation that drives your behavior and that of your spouse. This is unique to SFL training. This insight helps answer the “why?” of your behaviors. We also assist you in learning how your motivation changes during conflict. In addition, you’ll meet others of the same motivational value system and realize that motivation and behaviors are not solely a matter of gender but more a matter of how God has uniquely wired your soul. This training is fun, insightful, and experiential.
In order to focus on your marriage, it is helpful to get away for an extended time. We have retreat formats that are as short as 8 hours or as long as three days. We have held retreats in a local church or a “get-a-way” at a lodge in the mountains of Montana. What makes these gatherings unique to other retreats are the hands on insights that are learned through discovery. Along with the deep insights that are discovered you will share hilarious memories and leave wanting more.
Consentia Group can provide you with an experienced facilitator for your own event, or you could become certified by attending our Certification Training. One of our values is Multiplication. Our goal is to multiply facilitators for local ministries to equip their own members and reach out to their community. Our certified facilitators enjoy the free use of all our materials at no further costs making Certification the best option for those desiring ongoing ministry to families.
Soul Mates for Life is an excellent outreach tool. Why? The SDI assessments are suitable for any couple regardless of religious affiliation or none at all. In today’s world, all marriages are under stress; stress from financial demands, communication challenges as well as lack of conflict management skills. Once a couple has attended an SFL training event, as part of a follow-up track, “Short Stories for the Long Haul” provides excellent curriculum for further discovering soul issues of both individuals. SFL group dynamics have resulted in connections that have caused couples to want to continue to meet together for longer time frames. The result has been a starting point for small groups. Reluctant couples (or individuals) have discovered the training has changed their minds about marriage enrichment training and in some cases has opened the door for previously undiscussed spiritual topics including the Gospel. Let us discuss with you how this can become powerful in your ministry.Contact Us
Book: Soul Mates for Life, Dr. Larry G. Shelton
As a couple, once you have, experienced the Soul Mates for Life training, our experience is, you will want “more!” “Short Stories for the Long Haul” is an excellent follow-up book that contains 12 chapters (weeks) of inspiring and provocative writings for group and couple’s discussion. Each chapter contains a short story, a group discussion, and 5 PBJ devotionals (Prayer, Bible, Journal). Each chapter deals with an individual topic couples often wrestle with. Here are some chapter titles: “Romance, How to Fight Fair, Spiritual Warfare, Taking Faith-filled Risks, How Not to Keep a Record of Wrongs, Becoming Each Other’s Best Friend, Spiritual Gifting etc.” Once a couple has read a short story out loud together they can gather with other couples for a group meeting where they will discover what the Bible has to say about the topic of the week as well as what their SDI assessments suggest. After the group meeting each chapter provides 5 devotional PBJs to assist couples in going deeper in the topic of the week.Visit the Store
Premarital Workbook: This coming resource uses the SDI suite of assessments and is intended as a premarital counseling guide. Beta versions of this material have provided deep insight for pre-engaged as well as engaged couples. The “soulish” insights offered by SDI have proven to have evangelistic benefits, reinforce the vitality of the couple’s growing relationship and/or help some discover that it would be unwise to move the relationship forward. The SDI premarital counseling tool, I believe, will prove to be invaluable to every pastor, counselor, and the couples they work with.
“Riveting funny and informative. A must go see if you want the tools to get your marriage and other relationships back on track with unconditional love and understanding. We went from men are from mars women are from Venus, to, Hi I am a blue green and you’re a red blue and I understand you! We both agreed hands down it was the best marriage seminar with the greatest positive result we can use and maintain on a daily basis. Larry Shelton coupled with SDI training put hope back in our relationship with faith based logic, humor and passion we could appreciate and understand.”
"SoulmatesForLife was excellent! Although we have been in ministry leadership over 30 years, and married for 30 years we gained new and beneficial insights into ourselves and how we relate. To clearly see and be affirmed in our motivations and how they drive behavior was a welcome expansion to our self-understanding. Even a confidence booster, in recognizing this is the way God made us for His good purposes. We have been given new tools for loving one another, and others. This has opened new doors for deep communication, understanding, teamwork and intimacy. Plus, it was fun!"
“The SDI SoulmatesForLife Workshop and accompanying Strength Deployment Inventory are very useful in understanding what motivates our behavior towards others, especially our companions. Larry’s seminar has been one of the best we have attended. We came away with many new tools and concepts that we can apply in every facet of our lives. He facilitates this spiritually based training with compassion and a clear understanding of each participants behavior styles and strengths and their underlying motives. We would highly recommend this unique and needed endeavor.”
"The Friday/Saturday Soulmates seminar was a blast! Tim and I had so much fun soaking in all of this new-found info about ourselves and each other. It was also really cool breaking into our color groups and meeting others who were a lot like us based on personality. Hearing couple's marriage testimonies and epiphanies was so intriguing! I absolutely loved getting to be a part of it! I can't wait to go to another and recommend SoulmatesForLife to ANYONE!”
"Any couple, whether their relationship is sound or is seriously challenged, will benefit from this training. Dr. Shelton’s Christian foundation and deep insight into marital dynamics is above and beyond what I have experienced in other couples’ workshops. The use of the SDI assessment is a wonderful way to illustrate the strengths and challenges that each partner brings to the marital relationship. This information, when combined with the SoulmatesForLife teaching material, gives couples a number of down-to- earth ways to improve the quality of their relationship.”
“Taking a fun, interactive, informative, Christ-centered class to improve your marriage makes a lot of sense. Taking a class that is all that AND gives you the tools to improve all your relationships is a no-brainer! Whether you are married for 4 or 40 years, SoulmatesforLife will be a blessing for you and your marriage!”
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