Be the Gift
- Del Fehsenfeld
- May 20, 2024
- 2 min read
Updated: Aug 8, 2024
To be human is to be fired into life on a quest for love. The reason for this is the divine shape of the human soul. We were made by a God of love who created us from love, for love, and to love. It makes sense, then, why relationship research shows that people universally have three primary passions that express their search for love and orient everything else about them: a drive for acceptance, a drive for significance, and a drive for security.
But what happens when our bids for love are not answered? We all know the answer from hard experience. There is no greater pain than experiences of “unlove,” especially in primary relationships. Disruptions of safety, belonging, and affirmation are so terrifying that people will do almost anything to defend against them. And God knows there is plenty of unlove to go around. As the saying goes, “Hurting people hurt people,” in a seemingly endless cycle. We are made from love, but we are broken by unlove.
So what can be done for the human race? Only a more powerful new experience of perfect love can heal and restore. And this is exactly what God has provided through the gospel. This is the good news—that the God who made us is a trinitarian community of ceaseless love; that because of love, this God crossed all worlds to join us in our brokenness; that Jesus is the face of God’s love who came to give the world the life-changing experience of ultimate self-giving love; that God never stops moving toward us, even when we are at our worst.
Jesus invites us to receive the love of God by the power of God. As the love of God makes its way into our souls, miracles happen. The real needs of our hearts find a home in the reality of unfailing love, and this experience of love changes us, increasingly, from the inside out. Instead of using people, things, and achievement to gain satisfaction, loved people can extend love for the good of others. Yes, we have been broken by unlove, but we can be healed by new experiences of love.
Consentia Group exists to heal the world through soul awareness and the gospel. Our applications of the three passions of the soul and the SDI 2.0 relationship assessment help you discover how your core desires are connected to your behavior in relationships. And our training programs help marriages, leaders, and ministry teams learn to love more effectively and achieve better results through better relationships.
You can become a gift of love to others. Let us show you how.
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