Most people use their strengths reflexively. That means they use about eight to twelve strengths about 80% of the time, based on what comes automatically and feels most comfortable to them. This way of relating means they only utilize about 30-40% of their relational bandwidth....
The big idea that the SDI unlocks is that the what of a person’s behavior is best understood by knowing the why of a person’s motivations. When we are aware of our own motivations (and the motivations of those around us), our relationships become more...
Would you give your sixteen-year-old the car keys without showing them which pedal was the brake? Yet the majority of us do something just as dangerous every day—engage in high-stakes relationships with almost no formal training in conflict resolution. Were you taught how to handle conflict? With...
We all have buckets that we need to have filled. When they are full, we feel satisfied, and life seems good. Living with emotional intelligence is knowing what's in your own buckets and understanding what's in other people's buckets. I am not talking about your “bucket...
Experts on leadership tell us that using just one style of leadership limits our success. Different situations require different styles of leadership. Working with different people demands that you be flexible in how you work with them. Applying relational intelligence to your leadership style will...
Leaders are often the target of criticism. They do their best to lead well and make decisions that will be best for everyone, yet they find themselves attacked for poor leadership. Why is this universally true? Because what is right for the leader is often...
What is the most common conflict trigger for people? I don’t have scientific research to prove what I am about to say, but after training groups for ten years, I can tell you what pops up most frequently. The issue that triggers conflict for most...
If you are reading this blog post, you probably have someone in your life that exhibits controlling behavior. Controlling people are not difficult to find. You can find controlling people as parents, bosses, co-workers, at church, romantic relationships, or just interacting with strangers. Controlling people can...
A well-known quote from Peter Drucker is “Culture eats strategy for breakfast”. Success of organizations are more tied to the organizational culture than developing correct strategy. But many organizations, (churches, mission organizations, non-profits), pay little attention to developing culture. They are focused on vision and...
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who says everything is okay but you kind of feel like they are mad at you? You have tried to figure out what is wrong but the more you press, the more confused you get? More...
